Fear and Relationships

Fear- the one thing in our life that is constant. Everyone has it, and everyone struggles with facing it. From the fear of worms to the fear of heights, we are presented with many different opportunities to concur these fears. Some of us do... but what if your fear is something that plagues most people...the fear of being alone. I struggle with this fear often; sadly, I think the only reason that I have this fear is because of what I have to do to concur it.

I would have to submit myself to this person. I would have to be vulnerable.

To be vulnerable is the one thing that scares me the most in a relationship because that is when you are most likely to get hurt.

But a wise person told me tonight that "If your are in relationship with a person and you are both pursuing God in that relationship; growing in God together, your relationship will be wonderful. The expectation that a relationship will be perfect is just being naive.We are human... there will be fights, there will be disappointments, there will be heartbreak, but the moment you give it all up to Christ you will grow stronger." Of course this is all paraphrased just because that was allot to take in!

I will always struggle will allowing myself to be vulnerable, but I have found out tonight what I should be looking for in a relationship. I want someone that will challenge me to grow spiritually, cause once I do that... the rest will fall in line.

I read a quote that said "Life is a chance to grow your soul". I say this to all of you that read this. Do not let the fears in your life stop you from experiencing it. Cherish the moments as they come and continue to honor God, because the moment you stop either of these things your soul stops growing.

I want to say this the wise person that told me this tonight... thank you. In the short time that I have known you, I have grown to admire and adore you. Whatever happens, I know that you will help me and challenge me to turn to God in during the storms of my life. The world needs more people like you!